Roommate Realities

A student's relationship with their roommate can be one of the best parts of the college experience. Here are a few things to think about if your son or daughter calls you with concerns about his or her roommate.

My Roommate And I Need To Be Best Buddies
In reality, roomates don't always end up as best pals. Friendship isn't the main factor in developing a good roommate relationship. Respect and a willingness to communicate clearly are the keys. Be realistic about your expectations, and connect through compromise.

Agree To Disagree
There will be times when your son or daughter's values and thoughts are at odds with those of his or her roommate. Agreeing to disagree means as roommates, your son or daughter needs to recognize he or she won't always agree with the other person.

Respect Differences And Respect Safety
Roommates should discover what they have in common, their differences and make an effort to learn about each other's background. Each should respect the fact that sharing a room means making it a safe place. Discuss locking the room, sharing passwords, hosting guests, study times, as well as discussing concerns with alcohol and other drug issues.

UNL Residence Life staff are trained to help roommates work through issues. Your son or daughter should contact his or her resident assistant or hall director with any concerns.

Source: Paper Clip Communications: Roommate Connections